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6 Months, 6 Words

Many moons ago when I started writing I frequented the site of a guy named Elden. That's his given Christian name, but he goes by Fatty. And he's not. Not at all. Unless you are discussing his huge heart for his family and specifically, his wife Susan. She's battled breast cancer for some time now and it's looking like they are holding hands toward some end that will not be at all what their family is hopeful for, but he is pressing onward like a soldier who refuses to give up the fight. He is, simply, a good egg and their love story is one for the books.

In yesterday's post he posed the question of "What would you do if you only had six months to live?"

We've all played that game before and his answer is to record his wife's voice in conversations they've had so he can replay them to honor her. Elden's writing is spectacular and I urge you to read him. He mentions in that post a donation button he's put up for anyone to donate. While I feel led to do so I know that it's not a possibility for everyone. In the past, I've done my own donation collecting and it felt so wonderful to be able to do something for someone else. The intrinsic rewards are difficult to detail.

Since I wouldn't pressure people to give I will ask three things here:

1. Visit Elden's site.

2. Say a prayer for Elden and Susan and their four children and extended family and friends.

3. Leave a comment here in 6 words only about what you'd do in your final 6 months and I will use the number of comments to determine how much money I will donate.

Now go kiss your wife or mother or daughter and love the heck out of them. Do it tenderly.

*Thanks, Botched Experiment, for the urging to do something to support Fatty.

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Reader Comments (41)


Elizabeths last blog post.." rel="nofollow">Vote for the winner in the Renuzit Home Makeover

May 10, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterElizabeth

Kiss my husband beside the Seine.

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May 10, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterKerri Anne

What a heart-wrenching tragedy for Fatty's family. If I knew I were dying (and we're all headed toward that unknown), I think I'd be torn between writing down important memories and impressions for my children to have someday, since those are things no one else can give them. And I'd probably oscillate wildly between gratitude for every minute and rage at every minute lost.

My six words:
Live, love, remember, be grateful, mourn.

Carolyn B.s last blog post.." rel="nofollow">47×365, #10 - Jerry

May 10, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterCarolyn B.

Give family and friends my love.

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May 10, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterDaisy

live and love with no regrets.

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May 10, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterLara

Treasure my family, create happy memories.

May 10, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterErin

Kiss and hug son many times

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May 10, 2008 | Unregistered Commentercatnip

If I only had six months, I would...

Read a good book every day.

(And I think it's funny that instead of "URL" it says "URI", which in my world means "upper respiratory infection." Your site is infectious, that's for sure!)

May 10, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterBeth

Laugh, Make Memories, Hug, Love, Laugh

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May 10, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterWhite Hot Magik

Abandon all fear; LIVE every moment.

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May 10, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterMeL

Live. Love. Laugh.Be A Blessing.

Jakkis last blog post.." rel="nofollow">Welcome to My World

May 10, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterJakki

Say I love you to everyone.

Went over and donated $25. It's not tons but all I have. Every dollar counts. Thanks for humbling me.

May 10, 2008 | Unregistered Commenteranji

Marvel at my children's loving gifts.

Elizabeths last blog post.." rel="nofollow">Ferns, take cover!

May 10, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterElizabeth

Hold my family close; cry lots.

May 10, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterAmber

Enjoy my husband and kids more

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May 11, 2008 | Unregistered Commentertanilan

want to live. do something worthwhile.

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May 11, 2008 | Unregistered Commenteringrid

Hang out with family, swim, read.

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May 11, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterSuebob

Happy Mother's Day!! I hope you get breakfast in bed. :)

Elizabeths last blog post.." rel="nofollow">Ferns, take cover!

May 11, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterElizabeth

Thanks hon for talking about this issue and Elden and his family.
I will go over there and lend support.

But I wanted to stop by and with you a very happy mother's day!


May 11, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterKC

Sing, laugh, love, listen, share, enjoy!

May 11, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterBarbara

Laugh. Cry. Love. Pray. Listen. Hug.

Sues last blog post.." rel="nofollow">Happy Mothers Day to my Mama

May 11, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterSue

Write love letters to loved ones.

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May 11, 2008 | Unregistered Commentermayberry

Hug My Son. All the time.

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May 11, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterSleepyNIta

Absolutely every minute with my family.

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May 11, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterBig Mike In Oz

Hellooooooooo Kelly! Very long time, no talk...but I'm thrilled to see that you're still blogging away.

I'd formerly kept a blog at MSN Spaces (T. is for Teacher), and it's sort of floated away from me...

I've just restarted a brand-spankin' new blog, as well as a brand-spankin' new life away from the classroom. Ah. Budget cuts. 500 teachers in my district got the axe.

Hope this message finds you well. I look forward to catching up.

tamaras last blog post.." rel="nofollow">Pornographic Priestess

May 11, 2008 | Unregistered Commentertamara

Oh, and I forgot my response. (That's six words, but not what I meant).

Travel around globe with my family!

tamaras last blog post.." rel="nofollow">Pornographic Priestess

May 11, 2008 | Unregistered Commentertamara

Love Family
Love Nature
Love Myself

May 11, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterJennifer

Laugh, Listen, Cry, Wish, Dream, Watch

Tricias last blog post.." rel="nofollow">The Plan: as the children see it, for the distant and near future

May 12, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterTricia

Great tips to say I love you .

May 12, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterLeeza

Laugh more, stress less, make memories.

ragtopdays last blog post.." rel="nofollow">Friday Fill-in

May 12, 2008 | Unregistered Commenterragtopday

Only six? I petition for more.

No, don't count that one. How about:

Leave family a legacy of love.

May 12, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterSteve

Spend each day loving my family.

May 12, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterCassandra

Laugh more, kiss more, enjoy more.

Wendys last blog post.." rel="nofollow">These Are Days

May 12, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterWendy

I would forget to be scared.

May 12, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterCyndi

I came over just to say thanks for your comment and wish you a belated Happy Mother's Day. I decided to share what's been going on and coming over here just now has given me some perspective. I'm sending my thoughts to Elden and Susan. Breast cancer is such a bitch.

Live like I've never lived before.

May 12, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterMiranda


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May 12, 2008 | Unregistered Commentermp

Love deeply, laugh often, live loudly.

May 12, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterHeather

Quit grad school and travel far

V's Herbies last blog post.." rel="nofollow">damn biological clock

May 12, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterV's Herbie

Help my parents cope with it.

Mom has always said she can't imagine outliving one of her kids and my dad is worried near to death if I have the sniffles. So I think I would spend those six months helping them cope.

May 12, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterAmy in StL

Hug, kiss, love my family daily!

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May 12, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterWifey's House

Live each day to the fullest...

Cancer sucks, I travelled that journey with both of my parents.

May 13, 2008 | Unregistered Commenternec

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