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Big Things

I'm a good secret-keeper. I can keep a secret about big things even though I do hate when I say (rather, declare in writing) that I'm going to do something and then it doesn't come to fruition. But this one is on lock by now so I can mention it.

Last October when I wore Jenny Lawson's infamous traveling red dress I didn't expect the response to my wearing it to be so profound nor did I expect to have completed some really big things in my life since that time. Yet, it was life changing. It's actually a little bit longer than that because last July I told myself to get out of my own way. That's no finality to that because I continue to tell myself to get out of my way, to stop myself from talking myself out of things. It is a process, a constant practice that I circle back around to on a very regular basis. July is, it seems, always a big month for me in some way. Since last July I have:

1. Helped form a non-profit and become an Executive Board member on a project that is near to my heart.

2. Gone to Alaska with GoPro to film the Aurora Borealis and ride dogsleds.

3. Gotten on a Harley-Davidson at a summer camp for women and signed up for my first motorcycle course so that I may earn my license.

4. Written and sent off my first book proposal that is a memoir about an unlikely mentor in my life.

5. Applied to and got accepted into a doctoral program for education.

6 through 5 gazillion. Been a darn good mother, worked full time at a job I love, enjoyed the best relationship of my life with The Cuban, and learned to love and appreciate food. I have eaten a lot but I blame The Cuban for his astoundingly delicious food. And my children. Oh, my children. They are a marvel and a joy to me daily and I just like them so very much. (Love. I love them. But even better is that as they've gotten older I really and truly like them.)

But this other thing that happened for me this summer? This thing right here? This is happening. Next month I am going to be a guest on Katie Couric's new television show along with Jenny and a few other women who have worn the Red Dress. (It seems proper and fitting that both Red and Dress be capitalized, doesn't it? It's a formidable dress I tell you. Powerful.) For the past three weeks I have taken phone calls from Katie Couric's production staff and since I saved the phone number in my phone as "Katie Couric" I know who is calling. Each time, when The Cuban or my children are around I squeal, show them my phone to see the incoming phone call from Katie Couric (and usually say something like Pardon me, dahling, but I must take this phone call from Katie Couric), and then leave the room and start pacing around my house to talk with whatever person is on the other end.

Photo credit to Matthew D Penning Photography

This dress was amazing to wear, incredible to experience, and now it's leading me to just the most bizarre things. I never thought it would have taken me here. I like the Here where I am and I like the happiness I see in my face in that photo. A friend recently said to me, "I am loving your year so far." Those are words I'm dwelling on right now. Don't be fooled into thinking that it means that everything is perfect. It's a messy as ever and today I spent the entire day with my friend Becky because I told her she needed to talk me down from a ledge I've been on with all these things. Fear doesn't have a place in my everyday life, but it creeps it and I shoo it away when I feel a rush of bravery when I'm feeling daring enough. (That reminds me. Do you know of Brené Brown's work? She's doing a show, too, and when Karen Walrond told me to check her out I started crushing hard. Her work is just exactly what I'm experiencing right now.)

I know when I need things and need help and need friends. That's just a part of getting wiser as well as older. Right now, I needed to start telling more of my story and Katie Couric is going to interview me for it.

Come along for the ride? There are big things planned. Big, magical, red-dressy things.
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Reader Comments (36)

How absolutely wonderful! Here's hoping this will help you keep up the momentum.

July 22, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterAverage Jane

WOOOOOWWWWW, Kelly. Sometimes it's obvious when magic is at work in our lives. Most of the time it's below the surface, but in you, it's popping out!

July 22, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterKim Tracy Prince

I'm SO excited for you!

July 22, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterDiana

so proud of you!!! :)

July 22, 2012 | Unregistered Commenter*lynne*

Look at you being awesome...

July 22, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterdelami

Am I surprised? Hell, no. You deserve every minute of it.

July 22, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterElizabeth

Awesome. And amazing. Magnificent, really. You deserve all of it and you continue to inspire me.

July 22, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLeslie

I meant it.

And looky here, hallelujah, pass the smelling salts, it just keeps getting better. :)

July 22, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLaurie

I am so proud of you!

July 22, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterlu

That is just amazing! I'm so happy for you lady.

July 22, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterJen

Yay you. You deserve all the success you can find. So proud of you and so happy for you. xo.

July 22, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterRedneck Mommy

Congrats! Please let us know when we can watch!

July 22, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterDave2

Oh, wonderful woman, I am so proud of you, so thrilled for you, and just completely teary at the amazing world unfolding because of all you are. Xo

You are an inspiration for so many reasons. Can't wait to watch you and your friend Katie!

July 22, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLaura (@chambanalaura)

you are the coolest.

July 22, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterHeather

Very cool, and I love that while you share the big news about Kaitie Couric, you also tell about your friend Becky talking you down from the ledge. Keep it real Kelly, that is why I love you!

July 22, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBugladynora

You are spectacular!

July 22, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterpgoodness


July 23, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterRita Arens

[...] Red Dress. Yes, the one that sat in my bedroom, in the shipping box from fellow Katie guest MochaMomma, for about six months until I was forced to try to put it on and attempt to feel the [...]

July 23, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLearning to say YES

I can't wait. See you there baby cakes! I still can't get over how amazing that dress looks on you. And I'm still angry it didn't fit me.

July 23, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterErin

By all that's right and proper, tell me that this will be available online, in some form, for those of us who a) revere you, the ground you walk on, and the general awesome that is you, yet b) live far, far away from the televisual reach of even so luminary a one as Katie Couric. I need to see this!

July 23, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterCatherine Taylor

I am just so tickled for you Kelly. About everything--not just Katie Couric.

July 23, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterMeg Evans

So exciting! And that Red Dress is gorgeous on you. I cannot wait to see you and Jenny with KC (My new nickname for Katie Couric).

July 23, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterSondra

You know we are so proud of you at MomsRising!!!


July 23, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterAnita

I AM so excited for you. I love you in the photo with the RED dress. I am also so proud of you and will always be. God bless!!!

July 23, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterMichelle Roberts-Nanni

How wonderful! Everyone is right, YOU DO deserve only wonderful things happening to you!

July 23, 2012 | Unregistered Commentergorillabuns

Good heavens you look hot in the dress. And always, but you know what I mean.

July 23, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterburghbaby

How exciting for you!! You have to be sure and tell us when it's showing and I will make sure to tivo it (:

July 23, 2012 | Unregistered Commentermyblackfriendsays

I was hoping you'd be one of the one's picked for the Red Dress story. This is so cool. You're beautiful and totally awesome.

July 24, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterCindy

So many amazing things happening to you - how wonderful!

July 24, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterCate O'Malley

Oh, this is wonderful! I will set my DVR so there is no way I will miss seeing this!

July 25, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterMary Jo

You are such an amazing person, you know that?

Maybe what I am learning from you is to not be such a cynical person--or at least not so analytical. When I read or hear about things that are supposed to give people self esteem or whatever--I overthink it and I get so caught up in thinking 'is this true' yadda yadda--then I maybe miss doing fabulous stuff like this.

Thank you for all you are & do. You blow my socks off, honestly. I will try to figure out some way to watch you on TV!

July 29, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterOzma

I continue to be amazed and so proud of you!

July 29, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterRachael

Good for you!! I love the part about you getting accepted into the doctoral program. I have a M.Ed. in Ed. Leadership and constantly toil with the idea of going back for my Ph.D. ;-) Good luck with all of all sounds really exciting.

August 1, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterJennifer

[...] may also want to read Big Things and Sotto [...]

[...] on Katie Couric’s new television show was also unexpected this year. One day I got a DM on Twitter from Jenny that said to maybe expect a phone call from Katie’s [...]

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